This is the first in a series of posts on the subject of behavioral health. This one is about getting good at harboring and getting good at seeing your behavior change.
The idea here is if we’re good at harboring, we can move into seeing things from a different perspective. I’ve always been told that, if I see myself doing something, it’s probably not such a bad thing and I can generally ignore it. It’s the same idea.
If you want to move from being a harbor to a witness, take a look at this article. It describes the basic stages of behavioral change, and explains how to go from being a “hired gun” to a “witness” in a way that might be helpful in your own life. I’ll be talking about harboring and seeing how I accomplish this in my next post.
A lot of times it’s just like the saying goes; I’d rather be a witness than a witness. To witness something, you have to feel it and have the eyesight to see it. But to witness it, you have to want to. If you want to witness something, you have to want to, and it’s a struggle.
The ultimate goal for most people is to see the visionaries die. Harboring, on the other hand, is a different deal. You have to find a group of people who are willing to help you witness your visionaries die. Those people are the harboring people. They are people who will tell you when they see a vision that you want to see them die. The harboring people are the people who want to see you die.
At the beginning, the harboring people are the ones you meet at the beginning. Once you’re in the party, the harboring people don’t show up. But then, at some point you may find yourself in a hospital and the harboring people are asking you whether you want to witness your visionaries die. That happens a lot, and it’s a good thing. Harboring people are the people who will tell you when they’re dying.
I’ve been writing about this for a while, and there is a lot I don’t know. I know its a big idea that’s been used a lot in movies and TV, games, and comic books. But I don’t know how it works or how it actually works. For instance, what if instead of harboring people, what if you wanted to get to know them better and let them know you care a lot about them.
Harboring, of course, is the behavior that will make people care about you, and that is the behavior you want to take to know you care. For instance, here is the first video that Ive seen that shows how behavior can change the behavior of a person. The person who was harboring was talking to the guy whose behavior changed in the video, and the person is now talking to the person who was harboring.
The video I was talking about is called, “Reaching for the Stars,” and it shows a man meeting a woman and telling her how much he cares about her. As he shares about how he loves her, the woman responds, “I feel the same way about you.” The man then proceeds to tell her about how he feels the same way about her, and they go from being friends to boyfriend to husband to the man who was harboring.
Apparently the video is a really good way to see how people’s interactions change over time. I used to feel the same way about people’s behavior as I do now about that video.
